I was going to post about this to my LJ today, although somehow your post had skidded past my consciousness up until now.
Anyway - posting here instead.
I'm assuming you've got me in the "pretty sure they'll never want kids" group, and most of the time, you'd be right. And in this country, there are legal as well as biological impediments, quite apart from time factors, career factors, and all that jazz. I may not be "pretty sure I'll never want kids", but I am pretty sure I'll never have kids.
But it's become more and more a political thing these days. It's partially because the whole "abortion debate" has been brought back up again this last month, and so we've had people writing opinion articles about the joys of parenthood and the boredom of parenthood and this, that and the other. And then today, the wife of the man who, more than most, I consider my Mentor, certainly of the last year or so, wrote an article that was beautiful in and of itself, but still left me wanting to scream. Because from my perspective, right at the moment, all I see is "you have the wrong approach to living". And not only am I getting it from the government, from society at large (this is my problem with Desperate Housewives, and I still don't see it as being popular because it's ironic: I see it being popular because it's a 1950s fantasy)... but I'm getting it from people like Clare.
And there really are reasons this should have been in my own journal and not in yours, and I'm sorry! (Heh, add that to the various apologies floating around...)
And in case you're interested, Clare's article is here.
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Date: 2005-02-21 11:28 am (UTC)Anyway - posting here instead.
I'm assuming you've got me in the "pretty sure they'll never want kids" group, and most of the time, you'd be right. And in this country, there are legal as well as biological impediments, quite apart from time factors, career factors, and all that jazz. I may not be "pretty sure I'll never want kids", but I am pretty sure I'll never have kids.
But it's become more and more a political thing these days. It's partially because the whole "abortion debate" has been brought back up again this last month, and so we've had people writing opinion articles about the joys of parenthood and the boredom of parenthood and this, that and the other. And then today, the wife of the man who, more than most, I consider my Mentor, certainly of the last year or so, wrote an article that was beautiful in and of itself, but still left me wanting to scream. Because from my perspective, right at the moment, all I see is "you have the wrong approach to living". And not only am I getting it from the government, from society at large (this is my problem with Desperate Housewives, and I still don't see it as being popular because it's ironic: I see it being popular because it's a 1950s fantasy)... but I'm getting it from people like Clare.
And there really are reasons this should have been in my own journal and not in yours, and I'm sorry! (Heh, add that to the various apologies floating around...)
And in case you're interested, Clare's article is here.