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Writer's Block: Go it alone
Dec. 9th, 2009 10:31 pm[Error: unknown template qotd]
Yes, yes and yes. UGH.
I have wanted to have kids since I was about ten. Didn't really think that much about being in a relationship or not. But damn, hard as it is to be a parent... why would anybody want to pressure anyone else into it? Whose business is it of ours whether or not anybody else chooses to marry and/or procreate? Why can't we accept that some folks just really don't need a "better half" to be happy, and have no desire to be totally responsible, 24/7, for another human being for at least eighteen years?
IMHO? A staggering portion of our societal problems stem from people entering/staying in relationships that do more harm than good, because they've been told they're worthless without a partner. And even more from people spawning when they have no real desire to do so and no aptitude for it, but have been brainwashed into thinking it's just what people are supposed to do.
I would like my boys to eventually get married and have kids. But. If I ever give even the slightest hint that I'm pressuring them to go that way, or that I think less of them because they've reached the ripe old age of whatever and haven't done so yet? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SLAP ME. REALLY REALLY REALLY HARD.
Yes, yes and yes. UGH.
I have wanted to have kids since I was about ten. Didn't really think that much about being in a relationship or not. But damn, hard as it is to be a parent... why would anybody want to pressure anyone else into it? Whose business is it of ours whether or not anybody else chooses to marry and/or procreate? Why can't we accept that some folks just really don't need a "better half" to be happy, and have no desire to be totally responsible, 24/7, for another human being for at least eighteen years?
IMHO? A staggering portion of our societal problems stem from people entering/staying in relationships that do more harm than good, because they've been told they're worthless without a partner. And even more from people spawning when they have no real desire to do so and no aptitude for it, but have been brainwashed into thinking it's just what people are supposed to do.
I would like my boys to eventually get married and have kids. But. If I ever give even the slightest hint that I'm pressuring them to go that way, or that I think less of them because they've reached the ripe old age of whatever and haven't done so yet? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE SLAP ME. REALLY REALLY REALLY HARD.
