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medee6040:
1. If the L&O fairy visited you tonight and turned you into one of the L&O characters, which one would it be? (Based on your interests, background, temperament, etc. Assume that this transformation also provides you with whatever professional chops you need to function as that person.)
2. What area of law are you planning to practice in?
3. How have you managed to keep from killing your kids and/or their friends? (Okay, I'm not being sarcastic - and I know that you don't want to really do it, but I'm really curious as to how a PNB doesn't totally lose it at some point and just inflict serious bodily harm on some kid who has it coming. Other than to avoid jail time.)
4. What was the single most surreal experience you've ever had? Explain.
5. Knowing what you know now, would you do it again? (This applies to *anything* in your life, you choose.)
1. If the L&O fairy visited you tonight and turned you into one of the L&O characters, which one would it be?
Damn. I have no idea.
Hm... Claire, I think. Other than the being-dead thing.
Actually, Jamie. I could be Jamie, except for the sleazy ex-husband part; she's dedicated to her job but willing to give it up for her daughter, has been on both sides of the aisle and has done a good job at both, and now she's on the bench, not having to take sides any more.
And she didn't sleep with her "100% of Female Assisants Nailed and Counting" boss.
2. What area of law are you planning to practice in?
ADR, Drafting, international, environmental, criminal. So if I can find a job where I draft legislation for international environmental crimes and go through an ADR process to work out sentences for same, I'll be set.
Except I'm also interested in Family. So it would have to be ADR with international environmental criminals who are related to one another.
3. How have you managed to keep from killing your kids and/or their friends? (Okay, I'm not being sarcastic - and I know that you don't want to really do it, but I'm really curious as to how a PNB doesn't totally lose it at some point and just inflict serious bodily harm on some kid who has it coming. Other than to avoid jail time.)
PNB? Wass ist?
Lots of time-outs. For them and for me :) The threat of prison time helps a lot too.
Mostly just reminding myself that as annoying as they can be, there's a good reason I wanted kids. And that although they are also the most difficult part of my life by far, they are the most rewarding - also by far.
I also try to remember what life was like when I was their age, and try to get into their heads and see why they do the irritating things they do, and see what they can and can't control in terms of annoyance. I try to set realistic goals for them - eg. don't expect a toddler to follow three-step instructions, don't demand discretion from a five year old, don't expect an eight year old to have perfect table manners.
It also helps to remember that I'm the parent because I'm supposed to help them get to the three-step instructions and perfect table manners and all that; if they could do all of that on their own, I'd be out of a job. Which I will be, some day, but in the meantime I may as well enjoy the experience :)
Oh and a sense of humour doesn't hurt either, whether I'm laughing with them, or, discreetly, laughing at them ;)
4. What was the single most surreal experience you've ever had? Explain.
Hm... this probably isn't the most surreal, but it's the first that comes to mind. It's not particularly nice.
I volunteered at a crisis centre. My volunteer training group, where I was trained in effective listening and suicide prevention techniques, was led by a volunteer named Alex Nothisrealname. Learned about open-ended questions and risk assessment and all that fun stuff from him.
About a year later, Alex went through a bit of a rough patch emotionally. Became rather suicidal, actually. At one point I ended up talking him down on the phone, trying to sound calm and soothing while I got help for him. I flung a beer bottle down my residence hallway so that it would smash and bring people running to my room, and when they did, I wrote out something like "Call Rick at XXX-XXXX and tell him to get to the office NOW, Alex is in trouble" while still doing the supportive listening thing on the phone with Alex and trying not to think about how completely surreal it was that I everything I was saying and doing was something Alex had taught me.
That memory still creeps me out, frankly.
5. Knowing what you know now, would you do it again? (This applies to *anything* in your life, you choose.)
Have kids? Go to teacher's college? Teach in prison? Go to law school? Marry Chris? Absolutely, no question, in a second, with my eyes wide open.
Marry somebody going into medicine as a career? No. So I suppose that means if I could go back in time I would have to ask Chris not to go into medicine, and if he didn't change his mind... I guess I wouldn't marry him. Which would suck rather hugely.
Then again, he says that if he could do it over he wouldn't go into medicine, so assuming we could both go back in time and convince our younger selves, we'd still end up together :)
medee6040:1. If the L&O fairy visited you tonight and turned you into one of the L&O characters, which one would it be? (Based on your interests, background, temperament, etc. Assume that this transformation also provides you with whatever professional chops you need to function as that person.)
2. What area of law are you planning to practice in?
3. How have you managed to keep from killing your kids and/or their friends? (Okay, I'm not being sarcastic - and I know that you don't want to really do it, but I'm really curious as to how a PNB doesn't totally lose it at some point and just inflict serious bodily harm on some kid who has it coming. Other than to avoid jail time.)
4. What was the single most surreal experience you've ever had? Explain.
5. Knowing what you know now, would you do it again? (This applies to *anything* in your life, you choose.)
1. If the L&O fairy visited you tonight and turned you into one of the L&O characters, which one would it be?
Damn. I have no idea.
Hm... Claire, I think. Other than the being-dead thing.
Actually, Jamie. I could be Jamie, except for the sleazy ex-husband part; she's dedicated to her job but willing to give it up for her daughter, has been on both sides of the aisle and has done a good job at both, and now she's on the bench, not having to take sides any more.
And she didn't sleep with her "100% of Female Assisants Nailed and Counting" boss.
2. What area of law are you planning to practice in?
ADR, Drafting, international, environmental, criminal. So if I can find a job where I draft legislation for international environmental crimes and go through an ADR process to work out sentences for same, I'll be set.
Except I'm also interested in Family. So it would have to be ADR with international environmental criminals who are related to one another.
3. How have you managed to keep from killing your kids and/or their friends? (Okay, I'm not being sarcastic - and I know that you don't want to really do it, but I'm really curious as to how a PNB doesn't totally lose it at some point and just inflict serious bodily harm on some kid who has it coming. Other than to avoid jail time.)
PNB? Wass ist?
Lots of time-outs. For them and for me :) The threat of prison time helps a lot too.
Mostly just reminding myself that as annoying as they can be, there's a good reason I wanted kids. And that although they are also the most difficult part of my life by far, they are the most rewarding - also by far.
I also try to remember what life was like when I was their age, and try to get into their heads and see why they do the irritating things they do, and see what they can and can't control in terms of annoyance. I try to set realistic goals for them - eg. don't expect a toddler to follow three-step instructions, don't demand discretion from a five year old, don't expect an eight year old to have perfect table manners.
It also helps to remember that I'm the parent because I'm supposed to help them get to the three-step instructions and perfect table manners and all that; if they could do all of that on their own, I'd be out of a job. Which I will be, some day, but in the meantime I may as well enjoy the experience :)
Oh and a sense of humour doesn't hurt either, whether I'm laughing with them, or, discreetly, laughing at them ;)
4. What was the single most surreal experience you've ever had? Explain.
Hm... this probably isn't the most surreal, but it's the first that comes to mind. It's not particularly nice.
I volunteered at a crisis centre. My volunteer training group, where I was trained in effective listening and suicide prevention techniques, was led by a volunteer named Alex Nothisrealname. Learned about open-ended questions and risk assessment and all that fun stuff from him.
About a year later, Alex went through a bit of a rough patch emotionally. Became rather suicidal, actually. At one point I ended up talking him down on the phone, trying to sound calm and soothing while I got help for him. I flung a beer bottle down my residence hallway so that it would smash and bring people running to my room, and when they did, I wrote out something like "Call Rick at XXX-XXXX and tell him to get to the office NOW, Alex is in trouble" while still doing the supportive listening thing on the phone with Alex and trying not to think about how completely surreal it was that I everything I was saying and doing was something Alex had taught me.
That memory still creeps me out, frankly.
5. Knowing what you know now, would you do it again? (This applies to *anything* in your life, you choose.)
Have kids? Go to teacher's college? Teach in prison? Go to law school? Marry Chris? Absolutely, no question, in a second, with my eyes wide open.
Marry somebody going into medicine as a career? No. So I suppose that means if I could go back in time I would have to ask Chris not to go into medicine, and if he didn't change his mind... I guess I wouldn't marry him. Which would suck rather hugely.
Then again, he says that if he could do it over he wouldn't go into medicine, so assuming we could both go back in time and convince our younger selves, we'd still end up together :)
