Still saying sorry...

[ciroccoj]

(Overheard in our home)
Me: Some day I'm going to make myself a file of geeky jokes.
Chris: Honey... you are a geeky joke.
Me: Heeey! ::pause:: OK, fair enough.

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Slowly working my way through my ADR Apology article annotation (hey! I alliterated!). Slowly and painfully. Thank god there's something I figured out from fanfic writing that has been useful in RL writing too: colour coding. Anything in black (and usually with highlights) is stuff I'm still working on, not suitable for consumption for anybody but me. Anything in red says what I mean, but might need a little tweaking. Anything in blue is done, ready to print out, and does not need my attention.

So when I'm feeling overwhelmed, I look at all that's blue, and comfort myself that the red just needs a little nudge to become blue too. When I feel powerful and creative, I attack the black. When I'm feeling too lazy to use my brain for anything that requires deep concentration, I chip away at the red.

Don't knock it, it works.
Overall this article made many interesting points, and was a good introduction to the topic of apology and its role in mediation. As we have not really concentrated much on apology in class (beyond an acknowledgement that apologies may fit the psychological needs of some of the participants in a negotiation or mediation), this was both interesting and useful.
Unfortunately, the article seemed somewhat simplistic to me, and much of it seemed very redundant and something about too much detail for simple things - redundant?
What to take out? Examples, section on adversarial system - Bishop Tutu? Rpt par. 6

Comments

[daf9.livejournal.com]

I use colors too. But slightly differently. I leave in black anything I'm happy with. Red is stuff that eventually needs to be deleted but can't be quite yet because parts of it need to be incorporated elsewhere. Blue is stuff that needs to be revised. And in magenta I put comments like "need to find reference" or "will this really work? must check with "

[ciroccoj.livejournal.com]

Yay! I'm not the only one. Such a simple thing, but I find it so incredibly helpful - maybe not practically, but definitely psychologically.