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ciroccojWent on a screaming tirade at Daniel today, in public, for an extended period of time.
It was about road safety, so I don't feel bad. I would've screamed even louder and longer if I thought it would help.
I swear he's going to kill himself or somebody else one of these days, out of sheer spaceyness and lack of common sense. It's frightening. Today's incident would take too long to describe, but basically involved him doing something that made him and Justin unsafe while biking on a busy street, and persisting in continuing to do it even though I was telling him, in every way I could think, that he had to Stop Right Now and Follow My Orders. I explained calmly, I spoke sharply, I repeated, I repeated again, louder, I grabbed him, shouted - and he persisted, because he thought that what he was doing was safer than what I was telling him to do.
Dude, this is why I'm the parent and you're the kid: because I've had twenty-six years more than you have to figure out what's safe and what's not when it comes to biking on a busy street. So bloody well LISTEN TO ME.
He admitted, much later, that I had a point and he should have done as I said. Unfortunately, that doesn't make it more likely that next time he'll do anything different. Part of his problem is that he's a smart kid, and has an overdeveloped confidence in his own ability to know better than anyone around him what to do. I freely admit that his spaceyness is my contribution to the problem, but the I Know Best attitude is all Chris.
::sigh::
It was about road safety, so I don't feel bad. I would've screamed even louder and longer if I thought it would help.
I swear he's going to kill himself or somebody else one of these days, out of sheer spaceyness and lack of common sense. It's frightening. Today's incident would take too long to describe, but basically involved him doing something that made him and Justin unsafe while biking on a busy street, and persisting in continuing to do it even though I was telling him, in every way I could think, that he had to Stop Right Now and Follow My Orders. I explained calmly, I spoke sharply, I repeated, I repeated again, louder, I grabbed him, shouted - and he persisted, because he thought that what he was doing was safer than what I was telling him to do.
Dude, this is why I'm the parent and you're the kid: because I've had twenty-six years more than you have to figure out what's safe and what's not when it comes to biking on a busy street. So bloody well LISTEN TO ME.
He admitted, much later, that I had a point and he should have done as I said. Unfortunately, that doesn't make it more likely that next time he'll do anything different. Part of his problem is that he's a smart kid, and has an overdeveloped confidence in his own ability to know better than anyone around him what to do. I freely admit that his spaceyness is my contribution to the problem, but the I Know Best attitude is all Chris.
::sigh::
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Date: 2009-06-21 04:14 am (UTC)Those moments are so hard. You were right to BE THE PARENT. And it's so frustrating when you know today's issue is partly just your kid's Personal Learning Curve for This Lifetime.
*MORE HUGS*
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Date: 2009-06-24 02:52 am (UTC)Thanks. ::hugs:: back :) :)
And it's so frustrating when you know today's issue is partly just your kid's Personal Learning Curve for This Lifetime.
::nods thoughtfully:: I'm going to print this out and keep it somewhere visible. Personal Learning Curve for This Lifetime. We all have them. Must remind myself of this more often.